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Michael Anderson posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 28, 2024
Kathy
I am sorry this message comes so late, but I wanted to send along my condolences for your loss. You and your husband had a wonderful life together.
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Bob stanley posted a condolence
Friday, December 22, 2023
Hello Kathy, my name is Bob Stanley I don’t think I ever really met you but I may have anyway I lived with roughy in 1975 from about June until December and then I moved down to Boston the cold got to me I always love the guy but I did not stay in touch I’m so sorry for your loss and I just found out recently about his death you know I grew up with roughy in New Jersey he was my next-door neighbor for many years and we did a lot of stuff down in the Caribbean on my mothers boat and what have you at any rate I know I’m a little over a year to send my grievances to you if you ever want to talk I would love to. My phone number is 720-480-6847 and my email address is robert.stanley @ att.net again I will miss him and I would love to talk
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Marco Sinai uploaded photo(s)
Monday, August 28, 2023
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Kathy, my Lawrenceville 12 grade photo, 2 days before I ran away and lost touch with Ruffy ... I'm so sorry :'(
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Kathy Loblein posted a condolence
Saturday, February 25, 2023
I remember the first time I saw Ruffy, before ever meeting him. I was in my car, and he was taking down an old barn in downtown Searsport. Our eyes met, and I liked what I saw. I sent a message out to the Universe, wishing to meet him. I'm not sure how long it was after that, but we were introduced by mutual friends. And that is how it started.
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Kathy Loblein posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 22, 2023
Q: How did you meet Eldon?
A: I remember the first time I saw Ruffy before meeting him. Our eyes met from a distance. I was in my car and he was taking down an old barn where the bank now stands in downtown Searsport.I sent a message out to the Universe that I wished I could meet him. We were later introduced by mutual friends.
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Kathy Loblein uploaded photo(s)
Friday, December 30, 2022
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Marco Sinai Posted Aug 28, 2023 at 5:58 PM
dear Kathy, Ruffy was my ONLY hi school friend, we taught each other to play guitar. I dropped out of that Lawrenceville school to pursue a music career and we lost touch :'(. but I NEVER forgot Ruffy! I'm gutted to find this out, my prayers to you Kathy. may Ruffy rest in peace. Marc Sinai, Miami Florida
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Kathy Loblein uploaded photo(s)
Tuesday, December 27, 2022
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Lynn Karlin & Barry Way planted a tree in memory of Eldon Loblein
Tuesday, October 25, 2022
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We have wonderful memories of knowing Ruffy through the years. Our thoughts are with the family at this time. Love to you all. Join in honoring their life - plant a memorial tree
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Jason Loblein posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 25, 2022
I’d like to start with a few of my earliest memories of dad.
One of my earliest accounts as a toddler was resting my head against his chest while he read from In the Midnight Kitchen, Where the Wild Things Are, and Prince Caspian; And falling asleep in the mist in the Boston Whaler while he pulled lobster traps by the monument and threw old bait to the seagulls; Teaching me to swim, and how to ride the waves in front of Seascape in Long Bay.
Before bed, I would pick his brain on any number of things: What is electricity? What are the northern lights made of? He delighted in seeing my eyes light up while he deconstructed complex laws of science and nature into bite-size chunks I could understand. He was my hero; my teacher and protector; all-knowing and could do no wrong.
It’s usually later in life we begin to see our parents as mere mortals. Not every law of science he’d deconstructed truly stood up to scrutiny. I like to think that even if he didn’t have the answer, he didn’t want to disappoint my curiosity. Instead, he’d state his best guess with authority and enough confidence to avoid suspicion, and I was none the wiser.
The more I grew, the more I discovered that he was not without his flaws; some more hidden than others, and some deeply ingrained. His father, who shares the first name ‘Eldon’, had lived a tragic life. He’d lost his firstborn son to pneumonia and experienced a series of losses in business and in marriage. He suffered from depression and alcoholism as a result. As is typical when seeing someone you love spiral downward, you wonder or wish there’s something to say – using the right combination of words, in the right order – to break them from their fall. So, on the advice of his mother, Ruffy told his dad that he “didn’t want to see him again unless he stopped drinking”. Those were the last words he spoke to his father. It was Ruffy who found his dad alone and unresponsive on the floor of his houseboat. He was 14.
I tell this story because I believe he carried this trauma with him throughout his life. He was not always happy, nor content. “Most men live their lives in quiet desperation” he would say. I believe he was always chasing contentment, and at times I doubted he would ever find it.
He was capable of the brightest of optimism when things went well, and the darkest of misery when things did not line up in his favor. He was most content when finishing a build, or any smaller project – when he could take a breath and just look, admiring the fruits of his labor; and when spending time with his family. For me personally, he was fascinated by each and every creative endeavor I took on. He could not have been more encouraging, and his delight in my work is a continual source of fuel to this day.
12 years ago, dad suffered a stroke after a long bout with depression and alcohol. The housing crisis had knocked the wind out of him, and he could find no recourse – no escape – from the seeming hell he’d been put into. There were times that I didn’t recognize him. I didn’t recognize his words, and I didn’t recognize his gaze. It seemed that the energy and spark had been sucked out of him. It was my mom who picked up the pieces during that time when everything seemed hopeless, and with the strength and encouragement of our family.
It took him 6 months to recover. But in the end, he came through, almost unscathed, save for a shattered shoulder, and a more humbled disposition. Life had tempered him – softened him around the edges – and lightened his spirit. He was sweeter, and wiser, having braved the waves along the way.
Ruffy gets his name because he was a ‘ruffian’ as a child. He lived carefree and went where the wind took him, allowing nothing to get in his way. In the end, he was a resilient king – a better man for everything that he endured. And his life would be much less rich had he not sometimes stumbled.
He was immensely proud of all of us. “You will never find a more loving, caring person than Kathy”, he would tell me. “There is no better woman”. He was proud of us kids; that we’re all self-starters, taking on the paths that we chose – paths never pushed onto us under the promise of wealth and fortune – but paths that we chose for our own fulfillment. We carry his sense of freedom in us.
What I take from his life and from knowing him, is not so much advice that he spoke, but through the virtues that he exemplified:
Devote yourself wholeheartedly to your work and to your family.
And above all, be kind.
Dad, I’m grateful you had years of happiness and contentment. I’m grateful I spent so much time with you this past year. I’m grateful you got to meet Hannah and Ameera, and only wish you’d met Elodie in person. I’m grateful that you knew I was happy. And I’m grateful I got to say goodbye.
We may not ultimately know why we make the choices that we make.
But we still must own those choices.
I adore the choices that you owned,
And the life that you lived.
Because it was blessed.
By all measure, it was blessed.
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Saturday, October 22, 2022
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Our best to all of you during this difficult time. - Ryan, Clarissa, Jazlynn & Lorelei
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Lass King purchased flowers
Friday, October 21, 2022
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So many fun family gatherings, so much laughter and love shared, Remembered fondly forever.
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Jason and Michelle McDonald purchased flowers
Thursday, October 20, 2022
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To the Loblein family. My deepest condolences to you all, Ruffy will be missed Rest In Peace dear friend.
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Michael Lewis posted a symbolic gesture
Thursday, October 20, 2022
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Hello ,I am Michael Lewis from Rose Garden Long Bay Jamaica where I met Mr Ruffy and his family I started to work for him in the year 1994 as a maintenance manager at his pool villa Mr Ruffy was not just my employer he was like a dad to me I saw him as my mentor words cannot express my gratitude to him and his family, whenever he comes to Jamaica he always call me cocohead and he would say your "mother uncle" and we would have a wonderful time I built a guest house at the villa
and both of us built a swimming pool , whenever I needed a recommendation letter it would be a pleasure for him or his wife Mrs Kathy. I used to sing songs and play ring games with his kids Katherine ,Jennifer and Jason and there's never a time he would keep his kids from us even though some kids were mean to his kids Mr Ruffy was a very great man and he was not for himself he always care about others, he always wanted to give me a chance to come to America to work for a friend of his that owns a lobster pond but I was going to work with a different company and it pass over to Rick , his presence makes a big difference in Rose Garden Long Bay I could go on and on,there are so much good things to say about Ruffy he will always be in my memories when I heard that he was sick l was so sad I prayed that he will get well soon but it didn't happen when I heard that he pass away I felt like my heart stop for a while even now it is hard for me to believe because everytime he comes to Jamaica if he doesn't see me he would ask for me , the last time he came to Jamaica he send to call me I went to see him but we didn't get much time to talk because it was getting a little late and he was about to go to bed I didn't know that was the last time I was going to talk to him or see him he will be greatly missed in the flesh but he lives on in my heart I am so sorry I am not there to show my last respect to a great person so I am saying my condolences to his family and I pray that the Lord will strengthen you and comfort you all has you go through this process of grieve be strong Mrs Kathy praying for your strength.
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Dale McKendry purchased flowers
Wednesday, October 19, 2022
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Wednesday, October 19, 2022
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James and Ryoko planted a tree in memory of Eldon Loblein
Wednesday, October 19, 2022
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Live forever, good friend, in the beautiful houses you made. Join in honoring their life - plant a memorial tree
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Lisa Day purchased flowers
Wednesday, October 19, 2022
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Anonymous planted a tree in memory of Eldon Loblein
Wednesday, October 19, 2022
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We will always remember Ruffy with warm hearts.. a true family man and friend.. with sympathy and love, Gwen and Jim Bailey Join in honoring their life - plant a memorial tree
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lynn doubleday planted a tree in memory of Eldon Loblein
Wednesday, October 19, 2022
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Bill and I both have great memories of times with Ruffy. My heart goes to his beautiful family. We will remember him always. Warmly. The Hauk family Join in honoring their life - plant a memorial tree
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A Memorial Tree was planted for Eldon Loblein
Tuesday, October 18, 2022
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We are deeply sorry for your loss ~ the staff at Riposta Funeral Home Join in honoring their life - plant a memorial tree
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Margaret Campbell posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 18, 2022
We are saddened to hear of Ruffy's passing. Kathy and Ruffy have been neighbors and friends since we bought one of his wonderful custom-designed houses on the 'Passy' in 2011. We send our deep condolences to his family. Chris and Margaret Campbell
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Holly Emerson posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 18, 2022
Please accept our deepest condolences on your loss. He will be missed by many. Tim and Holly Emerson
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Katie Riposta lit a candle
Monday, October 17, 2022
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Ruffy will be missed for his quirky, loving nature and sensitive spirit. I am blessed to have known him. May the days ahead allow you to remember all the special memories of your lives together both here and in your beloved Jamaica.
Love, Katie, Jojo and Mya
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The family of Eldon Lawrence Loblein uploaded a photo
Monday, October 17, 2022
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